10 Frugal Ways to get Cupid on Your Side
How to Improve Your Love Life with the Power of Feng Shui... Without Spending a Dime!
[Editor's Note: I don't present this as gospel. After all, my
doorknob is loose, my bed is against the wall, and my love life is
terrific. (Your doorknob would probably be loose too, if you lived in
a house that's more than 250 years old.) But I do believe that a
pleasing environment is more conducive to romance, and I'm happy to
present a whole bunch of suggestions that cost nothing to implement.
If it helps your love life...wonderful. If it makes you feel more
upbeat...that's fine too.]
Feng shui (say "fung shway") is the art of creating a home
environment that supports the life you wish to live. A key element of
feng shui is creating a smooth flow of chi (positive energy) through
your space. Chi likes to move through your home as though it were a
gentle breeze or a meandering stream. Where it is blocked, the energy
becomes stagnant--like a pond choked with algae and fallen leaves.
You are likely to feel blocked in life, and your energy and
enthusiasm matters of the heart will be low. Balancing and correcting
the chi of your bedroom helps encourage and invigorate romance. Here
are some quick and easy ways to improve your love life by improving
the energy of your home:
1. Clean up your bedroom
When your bedroom is cluttered and untidy, the energy in there will
be low and slow. Clutter is a sure sign that chi is stuck, so roll up
your sleeves and clean the place up if you want to jump-start your
love life. Ring a bell, shake a rattle, or clap your hands loudly
around the room to clear out old, stale energy.
2. Make room for love
If you want to attract a new romantic partner--or move a casual
relationship closer to commitment--make sure there is space for that
person in your home. Look at your closets, shelves, and dressers,
especially in the bedroom; if they are all filled to capacity with
your own stuff, make clearing some room for your current or future
partner a priority. Aim to free up 25% of the space in your bedroom
for someone else's things. When you are done, take a moment to
visualize your loved one's belongings finding a home there.
3. Don't work out in the bedroom
When you exercise in the bedroom, or store your sports equipment
there, you bring the energy of hard work and exertion into your
romance space. Do you want your relationship to feel like a tough
workout? If not, move your workout stuff somewhere else; your
relationship is likely to move along more smoothly.
4. Remove old relationship energy
Go through your home--especially your bedroom--and remove anything
that reminds you of past failed relationships; this could be an
ex-boyfriend's old sweater you find in the closet, photographs of you
with a previous partner, a gift that reminds you (unfavorably) of a
giver with whom you are no longer in love--anything that reminds you
of a love that went bad. No matter how incurable a romantic you may
be, do NOT keep old love letters anywhere in your bedroom unless they
are from someone with whom you are still blissfully paired up.
5. Remove inappropriate imagery
The images with which you surround yourself can have a powerful
effect on your love life. Feng shui clients who complain of
difficulty finding romance often have surrounded themselves with
images of a person alone. Inappropriate imagery includes anything
that represents solitude, loneliness, aggression, hard work,
conflict, or disagreement in any way. That old photo of your Dad when
he was in the army may be a treasure, but the war-time energy it
carries doesn't have any place in the bedroom; find another place to
6. Open the door to love
Make sure both the front door of your home and the door to your
bedroom open easily and completely. Doors that stick, squeak, or that
only open partway because of all the stuff stored behind them are
blocking the flow of romantic energy and opportunity into your home.
A loose doorknobon your bedroom door could mean you're having a hard
time "getting a handle on" romance; get out your screwdriver and
tighten it up.
7. Create a path for chi
Walk slowly from your front door to your bedroom, pretending that you
are a gentle river of chi. Look for any areas where furniture or
other belongings are stopping or slowing the flow of chi, or where
chi is diverted away from the bedroom to other areas of the house.
Clear a path so fresh chi can find its way to your bedroom and
nourish your love life. Make sure all the lights along this route are
working, replace any burned-out bulbs, and be alert for dark or dingy
corners where you can increase the energy by adding more light.
8. Move your bed
If one side of your bed is against the wall, the person who sleeps on
that side may feel confined or disempowered in the relationship. If
possible, place the bed so there is equal space on either side, so
you and your partner can find equal enjoyment in the relationship.
The ideal position of the bed will be on the opposite side of the
room from the door, but not directly in line with it. If you can't
see the bedroom door from the bed, hang a mirror where it will
provide a reflected view of the entry.
9. Bring romance chi into the bedroom
Be sure to place romantic imagery in these two key places in the
bedroom: the wall opposite the foot of the bed (where you naturally
look when lying in bed), and whatever area of the room you first see
when you enter. Beautiful, romantic artwork is always good, as are
fresh or silk flowers and anything in pairs (such as birds, cherubs,
candles, or decorative pillows). A round mirror is also good for the
bedroom, as the shape signifies completion and unity. Look around
your home for whatever says "romance" to you, and find a good spot
for it in your bedroom.
10. Clarify your intention
Make a collage of images that symbolize your perfect relationship,
and place it where you will see it every day. If you are already in a
relationship, invite your partner to make a collage with you, to
represent your intention to build a joyful and loving future together.
Stephanie Roberts is a feng shui consultant in Maui, Hawaii, where she moved after transforming her own life (and meeting the man of her dreams) through the power of feng shui. She is the author of: Fast
Feng Shui: 9 Simple Principles for Transforming Your Life by
Energizing Your Home; Fast Feng Shui for Singles: 108 Ways to Heal
Your Home and Attract Romance; and Fast Feng Shui for Prosperity:
Keys to Living in Abundance (available October, 2002). She can be
reached by email at Stephanie@fastfengshui.com.
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